Lose to gain

Sometimes you have to be willing to loose everything in order to gain yourself! This quote applies on so many levels from what we own to pride as well. Materialistically we all have a tendency to feel that our identity is due in part to what we own and who we know. That's not how it SHOULD work so change that way of thinking. Your identity does not come from association but yet from character instead. How others perceive you has more to do with reputation than actuality. Let go of the strain and worry because opinions from others shouldn't change the way you look at yourself. Only God can judge! The way others see you shouldn't matter since in some way it is tainted with emotions of hate, jealousy, envy, ect. Don't get me wrong tho, EVERYONE isn't that way but its reality that some are. The one's who don't feel that way will genuinely be there for you no matter what. With that said why feel bad about yourself if someone else thinks bad of you? That's their problem...not yours!Know thy self worth as nobody else can calculate it for you. It's also hard to see yourself in the mirror if your life is too cluttered so remember that a clear space leads to a clear mind. Separate your needs from your wants and let go of all the rest. Why carry a heavier load than you have to? Leave behind unnecessary weight that bring you down. Maintain a good relationship with yourself by having balance as it will make a world of difference. You can be your own best friend or worst enemy depending on how you treat yourself.  -Nikki J.